Why is it that whenever a woman has a life changing thought for herself or about her life, these three questions are always asked by her girlfriend: Are you having marital problems? Are you in PMS mode? And, have you been drinking?
Why does any of the above have to be going on in order for a woman to make some changes with herself? Probably because when we are in a pissed off mood with our husbands, getting ready for the period bomb to drop, or we’re on our third martini, we start thinking about what we really want to do with our lives. If none of the three questions apply to the situation when we are making a shift, then we’re usually referred to as “nuts” or “looking for love in all the wrong places” because most of the time, women just end up settling for second best, stifling their emotions, wiping their tears, and carrying on.
But, when you get to a point in your life where you’re asking yourself, “where’s my rainbow?” that’s when life shifts. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a good marriage, you’re in pre-menopause, or you drank a whole bottle of wine; the rainbow question happens to all of us.
At one girls’ night that I went to, the hostess had two cocker spaniels and they were absolutely adorable. It seemed like the dogs were following me the entire evening and I fell in love with them. I got all the information about how and where I can get one and while doing so, my girlfriend looked at me, shook her head and said, “There’s no way in hell you’re getting a dog.” So I asked, “Why!” And she responded, “Because you’re on vodka and according to you, you wanted to eliminate things in your life like the kids, not add in more work for yourself with a dog!”
“Well,” I said, “Maybe I changed my mind.” So she said, “Yup, and you’ll change it again in 48 hours. Mark my words!”
At this point, I was annoyed and thought, “Who the hell is she to tell me what I can and can’t do?” So, the next day I investigated cocker spaniels for the entire day. I gained so much knowledge that I felt confident enough to put in my resume with Cesar Millan. But, the day after the investigation, I came to my senses and thought, “What the hell am I thinking? I don’t want a damn dog! I’m trying to get rid of my kids!” I guess alcohol really does affect a woman’s thoughts on changing her life!
When I am in PMS mode, I usually hate everything and everyone so it’s not unusual for me to want to “clean house”, literally. So my girlfriend listens to my “bitch and moan” session and, like everything else, in 48 hours I’m fine. Same holds true for when my husband and I have a blow out and I tell my girlfriend that I told him I’m getting a divorce because I’m sick and tired. She rolls her eyes every time and says, “Yeah, okay. I’ve been listening to this for 20 years. You’re nowhere near divorce material. Now, just have a glass of wine and everything will be fine. Let the 48 hour cool down happen and if you still feel the way you feel, I’ll give you the name of a good lawyer . . . maybe.”
So, this is why the three questions always arise; but after 48 hours of our so called “soul searching” trip, we change our minds. That’s how you know it wasn’t the right thing to do. And if you did do it, you always regret it.
Yes, I’m soul searching for myself somewhere over the rainbow—It’s my happy hour where I can think of me and all that I want for myself. When you find that true place in yourself, you know, and everyone else does too, that in 48 hours you’re not going to change your mind—Even if you are on your third cosmopolitan, you took out your ruby slippers and are singing “Somewhere over the rainbow.” Yup-it’s where we all want to be with no questions asked. And it doesn’t matter if you’re a “good bitch” or a “bad bitch”, you’ll get to where you want to go if you let your heart guide you and just follow your yellow brick road!